What do you do when your mate makes fat and food comments to you although you tell them it hurts
The one thing I have learned is that you cant change other peoples opinion of you! If they don't see how awesome you are now, don't think they are gonna see it when you reach your goal. Some people, no matter what title they hold in your relationship with them, can't seem to find any good in you. This is because they can't find the good in themselves or they see you are unique and they don't want to let you know that you are. They are not trying to validate anything good that you are. They are jealous and secretly wish they were you. I try very hard not to go around people like that, and I try to surround myself with people who support my goals. Even if I don't reach them, they are still in support of me. There are very few that I have, that are related to me, so I depend on sites like this one for support. People are so miserable, and I don't want to be their company. Keep focusing on you and your goals and loving yourself. Family can be your worse critics! So I am void of family right now but when they do come around me, there are boundaries set, and if they can't respect the boundaries then their has to be NO COMMUNICATION AT ALL.
If your husband is making fat jokes at you and you have told him it hurts your feelings and he continues to do it anyway!?!?! Well, how does he look!?!?! Im sure there is something on his body that didnt look the same since you all got married!? I mean come on now!?!?! We all age and our bodies go through things with age. So i would ask him, did he fall in love with you or just your body!?!?! Because your still you, big, small, fat, little, you are still you!!! So being married doesnt always mean you have the perfect body or shape during the marriage. We women deal with a lot of stress these days, and then we carry children, and we work, and go to school! Then we have a husband that sometimes act like a baby! So he has to love you where your at in life and you the same with him. My ex used to say nasty things about my weight to me too, and we divorced because he cheated! Now im soooo sexy to him and everytime he sees me he wants to be sexual with me. Because he is sick, sad, busted, and disgusted and cant offer me anything!! So his fat ex wife is still fat and beautiful and not wanting him back! I love being single and doing just me! Tell him its hard out here to find a skinny, sexy, beautiful, woman who works and holds down the household too and take care of her husband too!
I'd leave, as hard as it is for a lot of people. If your partner can't see how destructive and hurtful their comments are, then they aren't good for you. If you want to lose weight, or just improve your mood, dump the toxicity.
I know it's hard. I once stayed in a relationship after being cheated on and told my thighs were disgusting, but once I started doing stuff for me (played D&D, got my nails done once in a while, dyed my hair) I realized I could be happy and deserved as much. Treating myself, was the first step, and it gave me the strength to start over. Now I'm engaged to a wonderful partner, who doesn't care about my weight, and couldn't care less about the parts of me I hate (thighs, stomach, arms), because there are good parts to being big (huge bazooms! And great cuddling). He's also got a bit of a tummy, so neither one of us is in a position to talk. Haha
Suzanne, nobody should judge anybody because the whole human race is flawed!!! We look different, we smell different, we have different shapes and sizes, and we all are fearfully and wonderfullt made in the eyes of God!! This is what His word says about us! We were made in the likeness and the image of God! So mankind is crazy in their thinking, so when you hear someone judging you or somebody else, just tell them God bless you! They dont even like themselves and beauty is only skin deep but ugly is to the bone!!! Although i know some real beautiful people inside and out!! Dont forget your one of them!!!
Well if it was me and my husband was doing that to me I would for sure work my butt off and get the weight off or whatever you need done and I wouldn't stop till I got to looking my best just to show him. You should let what he says to you to motivate you instead of letting him know how it hurts you and hun I guarantee you it will hurt him worse to see you happy all the time instead of paying attention to him putting you down all the time Love yourself as you are and if your not happy with yourself then start doing something about it and when you start seeing a different you things will change for you on how you feel in everyday life. The best of luck to you!!